Erotic fantasy is what it is, we get ideas that evolve and become intense sources of pleasure. Some fantasies are inherently hotter in theory, some are unfeasible/impractical to realise, and some could be fun to try in a safe and consensual setting. Some you’ll want to keep, some let go of, and most you’ll continously re-evaluate as you and the ideas continue evolving.

(The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin is a fantastic read on the topic)

Having fantasies is entirely normal, including of “extreme” situations, it is part of how we deal with stuff and how we explore what brings us pleasure and release. They’re typically not problematic until they keep you from living your best life (like if they get intrusive or compulsory), or if they cause you harm to think about or realise.

Besides, there are many things to find hot in such a scenario: being the vessel for someone’s pleasure, releasing your self image, relinquishing/surrendering control, breaking taboo/norms that keep you from pleasure, feeling vulnerable, feelling prized/conquered, as well as simply the prolonged agony in teetering between ecstasy and pain before exploding in intense pleasure.

I find many of those hot with the right partner, and in my experience variations of these aren’t at all uncommon.

There is however one thing to keep on watch for, self harm through risky behaviour. Good kinky fun is great and healthy, as long as you go into it with consent (including a way to revoke it at any time), some idea of boundaries/limits and a respectful discussion with your potential partners to make sure you all understand, trust and can manage unexpected situations together.

This is mostly only necessary for realising the fantasy though, in your mind’s theatre you can go as wild as you please. Regardless, I wish you many orgasms and more pleasure!

Yes it’s totally normal. People have all sorts of fantasies - there’s nothing wrong with any fantasies, and when it comes to acting them out I am of the opinion that anything goes, so long as it’s worth consenting adults. I had an ex who was into being dominated, and I found that I really enjoyed playing those games with her. Within the context of a good relationship it can be loads of fun. And it was safe, we trusted each other and she knew she could stop play anytime if she felt uncomfortable.

Of course. There’s lots of people in the kink and bdsm scene that are into just that. I’m pretty submissive too (though not as sexual, for me it’s things I don’t really mix)

I would recommend to explore it carefully because it sounds like you’re really interested. But to get into it very slowly. So you can check if it’s really something you like and that you don’t feel pushed into it. This is not the kind of thing you want to dive into the deep end with. Even though being submissive is about loss of control, it’s also about being protected, trusting your dominant and having a way to stop. If you mess around with someone who doesn’t know what they’re doing it can turn into a nightmare. And legal issues like others have pointed out.

Luckily most people in the bdsm community are super careful with consent. Even more so than swingers for example. In this particular case I would always put things in writing. Even if it’s your regular partner. Because it’s the kind of thing that really can get out of hand. You could also have a trusted someone else there or do it in a bdsm club.

If you’re looking to get into it I would sign up to fetlife (free) and look for a ‘munch’ in your area. This is a meetup of kinky people in a neutral place like a bar, no playing just talking. You can get to know people and their practices, the community etc. In my area there are also lots of courses and workshops. I can recommend doing some before you do anything.

Your fantasy is not very specific “forced and hurt” could range from simply tying up and some light spanking to really heavy stuff. Like I said start small and only go further once you feel safe. Things like forced sex I would only do with highly trusted partners (I’ve never done that myself) and like I said written consent. And there should always be a stop word or sign (you can’t always speak). But to get there it helps to start with the much smaller stuff. I think it’s the only way to do it safely.

“Everything is about sex except sex, which is about power” -Oscar Wilde

If you are interested I recommend The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book. Have fun and remember when telling your partners this is is a fun gift you get to explore together. You will have plenty of options to choose from

In any subset of a population, probably, but consent is more than important, it’s essential, and highly jurisdiction dependent. In some countries, one might be considered an offender for even mentioning a proclivity for fulfilling your desire, so even if there were written consent agreements, it might be still be problematic.