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  • As a certified “Reddit wasn’t so bad actually” person, as someone who wishes society weren’t so prudish, I still wish we left the NonsexualtopicPorn naming convention behind.

    Adding extra NSFW to a title for things that are not actually NSFW does not seem like a good idea to me. Tells people who are not in the know about the naming convention and who do not have a sexual interest in Nonsexualtopic that the space is not for them, shrinking the audience. Don’t have to be a prude, just a newbie, to see “MistranslationPorn” and think “cool for people who have a fetish for mistranslation, but even though mistranslation is a cool topic I’m not interested in it as kink or a sexualized version of it, time to scroll by”. Also looks bad for browsing where people might see, and then having to explain “no it’s not porn porn, it’s just a silly naming convention”…





  • The question is where do you draw the line? I’m sure that in Victorian times, something like sex with the lights on or anything not heterosexual is

    the honestly disgusting and insane things that get published

    and

    literary depravity

    I think a better question is how do we prevent people from getting hurt in real life, not what do you personally find disgusting. I personally cannot watch horror, pimple-popping, even had to look away during some action movies because I think the injury shown in these is disgusting, I actually have a pretty visceral reaction to it, but I don’t argue for these things that will live rent-free in my head in a negative way to stop existing for everyone. I just don’t consume it, and ask people to tag content appropriately if I see it untagged. But of course, if you injure a person in real life and not just on film or a book, then by all means throw the book at them.

    I do get your discomfort with seeing things in public. I wouldn’t want the shot of the slasher in the middle of violently killing someone on the public ad. I think if it’s got a visual component do not show it in public, but if it’s text you are probably too close to the other person’s book/phone—I don’t try to snoop on strangers in public and still sometimes see what is on their phones, but I don’t look long enough to read.









  • My naive understanding of things says this is what construction companies are for. Pay the one that does the best work the fastest. It already exists, just not in publicized easy-to-judge ways. Of course, perverse incentives and corruption as well as just “work expands to fill the time allotted” and genuine roadblocks in progress and complex stuff I do not 100% know because I do not work at a construction company but am vaguely aware exists because of adult cynicism plays a part too…



















  • ah, but didn’t you know you always trust your gut?

    not me being irrationally mad that when i was on reddit, r/askreddit had so many “trust your gut” stories and threads of “reddit, when did you trust your gut and it turned out to be right,” and very few “reddit, when did you trust your gut and it turned out to be wrong?” threads. but it is also true that stories of avoiding a danger that manifested are more exciting than deciding to not avoid a danger that never manifested, so the latter got fewer clicks and engagement

    just… really glad that i see something agreeing with the “don’t always trust your gut” viewpoint for once. although i super super understand risk aversion and that it’s better to avoid a danger that never manifests than it is to go boldly and end up facing danger, because that’s how i am. but i also imagine that “trusting your gut” and avoiding that weirdo creep just might have been “i’m unfamiliar with this” bias against neurodivergent people who don’t 100% know how to come off normal even if they desperately tried to, or against people from a different culture or race who don’t do the exact same social signaling you’re used to (or maybe they just do, and implicit/unconscious bias does the rest of the work for you). as a neurodivergent person i wonder how many people have “trusted their gut” and decided to write me off. (but i also really can’t blame people for avoiding if they thought i was dangerous, i get it.) there are probably other, more dramatic cases where trusting your gut can legitimately harm yourself or others in a way beyond just missed opportunities or the harms of social exclusion/judgment, but this is the one that immediately comes to mind.


  • I’ll be honest, I really don’t get this one besides the guy getting super meta.

    I do wonder how meta people got in historical times. They definitely thought about their legacy, how others would perceive them when they were dead, but how layered did it get? “Will people think I did X because I was worried about my legacy?” Trying to both not get all “lol historical people dumdums with no resemblance to the thoughts we had today, even though they too were intelligent humans” or “lol historical people thought exactly as we do today, no concepts had to take time to learn and permeate culture before they became something people would think about, ‘we stand on the shoulders of giants’ and they had the exact same quantity of and access to these giants that we do today”