Emotions convey messages about yourself, but we constantly manage them due to societal norms, priorities and other stuff. Like a colleague screws you over and you want to yell at him but you suppress the feeling because you don’t want to get into trouble. Or you mess something up and someone says “don’t feel guilty, you couldn’t have prevented this”.

After a while, you start to internalize this stuff. Whenever you get angry, you push it down because “it’s not worth it”, whenever you feel guilty, you start rationalizing it. But the real reason you’re feeling these emotions never gets addressed because you start managing them before identifying the root causes. So they build up and lead to all kinds of nasty things.

Validation is accepting that you’re feeling an emotion instead of immediately trying to deal with it. It’s useful because then you can start asking yourself questions. What exactly am I feeling? What does it feel like? Why am I feeling it?

Maybe you want to lash out at your coworker because he betrayed your trust and now you feel hurt. That’s a perfectly reasonable response - shit, maybe if the circumstances were different, you’d be expected to act aggressively towards him. And your guilt over your mistake? Maybe you’re afraid that people will not like you if you make mistakes? Now this is interesting because people make mistakes all the time and are still liked. Why do you feel this way?

There are many techniques to help with all this. But it takes quite a bit of work (especially for neurodivergent folks).

TL;DR: Validating your own feelings helps you indentify you deeper thoughts. It takes effort because you’re taught to keep a lid on it.

I want to be leaven.

Wait, Barney’s gay? And Gordon isn’t?

They killed the Metaverse a few weeks ago, so he’s going to have to do it the old-fashioned way: pizza on Friday and mandatory team-building exercises.

Typo, fixed lol

Having a bottle of piss thrown at me would change my mind, at least about spouting inflammatory things in person, in public.

He mostly does keg stands, stein curls and one-way burpees over the toilet bowl.

• Nowhere, fast
• Down on your mom
• To steal the Declaration of Independence

Take your pick

Bro kind of underreacted to being shot in the face point blank with a bolter.

Other babies: Twinkle, twinkle, little star

This baby: Come out, ye Black and Tans

Hmm, I wonder…

Jesus Christ.

Well, she seems to be working on a solution!

I like it. Tastes like Coke, which I like as an occasional treat, doesn’t keep me up at night and doesn’t make me gain weight.

“A troop transport that can’t carry troops, a reconnaissance vehicle that’s too conspicuous to do reconnaissance… and a quasi-tank that has less armor than a snowblower, but has enough ammo to take out half of D.C.”

Congrats! And I hope you feel better soon lol

I did a Spartan Sprint this weekend. It was a lot of fun and I trained for it for months but I’m still hurting where I never hurt before.

Her hand gesture really makes this photo.

We’re on a mission from God.

I didn’t know you can get front-mounted bike seats for kids. Looks like a lot of fun!

Fuck that looks good