is it because its a juvenile term and its time to use the serious terms (harassment? sexual harassment? assault?) is it because most people stop getting bullied in high school and its something that happens almost exclusively to the neurodivergents? is it because were adutls and have other things to worry about? why are people this resistant to this. even in more progressive spaces ive been told to toughen up/move on? whats hapening

  • KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml
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    30 days ago

    I agree. I got bullied hard in school and it completely changed me. I still have a really hard time being comfortable around people and assume all strangers hate me. I wish adults with bullying trauma were taken more seriously and listened to. You never hear their perspectives on TV for example

  • Lurkerino [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    30 days ago

    I got bullied in school, i still have social anxiety about it, i dont meet new people, i dont make new friends, i have a good small friends group of neurodivergents and im fine with that, i just wish i could drop the guard and be myself more. And i want to find a partner but its not going to happen like this so i must do something

    • opiumfree [any, any]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
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      29 days ago

      yeah its true but i really dont think its that serious, we have war criminals being open about i promise it wont be life ending to admit you were silent in 9th grade

    • cfgaussian@lemmygrad.ml
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      1 month ago

      Just because someone said something in another post that you don’t like does not justify being rude to them in another post. If you do not have a constructive answer to give don’t answer at all when someone is asking a serious question.

        • cfgaussian@lemmygrad.ml
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          1 month ago

          On your post i responded also and my response was strongly in favor of defending welfare programs. I disagree with what OP wrote there. It is entirely fine to engage in a heated discussion on this topic on that thread because that is what that thread was for. What i am objecting to is dragging a disagreement from one post into another completely unrelated post. This creates a toxic and un-comradely atmosphere.

          We should also not jump straight to the most uncharitable possible interpretation of what a comrade says. This is not a space where you need to be that defensive. You are among comrades, not among reactionaries who want to harm you. If you think someone is wrong explain to them how and why their view is wrong and potentially harmful. Do not directly accuse them of deliberately wanting to do harm.

          Personal attacks do not help. Education does.

        • opiumfree [any, any]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
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          1 month ago

          im gonna give you some credit because you joined 3 days ago but when i think of welfare state i think of a social democracy that still exploits the global south for resources. im gonna misinterpret u just as bad you did me. do disabled people in africa and western asia deserve to die? because they do, where do you think the funding for the welfare states come from if not from those nations? people in these nations have no energy to care for the disabled after being exploited for resources and endless western backed coups. did the mamdani thing set you off ? genuinely because youre my comrade and i want to understand

    • opiumfree [any, any]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
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      1 month ago

      what??? a welfare state does NOT refer to welfare programs !!! a welfare state in the capitalist world (the context of your post) is often a social democracy which objectivly uses the resources from imperialism just with a different distribution !!! and now you came in my vent post about ableism to tell me that i misunderstood things and im ableist when youre the one that did !!

  • DisabledAceSocialist@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
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    30 days ago

    I got badly bullied at school for being the weird, poor kid. It got so bad I confided in a teacher and she said she would help. Her “help” consisted of announcing to the class that I had reported them.