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Nobody else just buy their favourite shirt in bulk, I have like 10 shirts and jeans identical in my wardrobe
I don’t usually anticipate a random garment to become my favourite.
I try to stock up when it happens but sometimes I can’t find any at a price I’m willing (or able) to pay.
Having hippie grandma tastes and trying my damnest to buy mostly used clothes don’t help either.
Otoh I’m getting real good at mending clothes until they fall apart. I have very low standards for home clothes.
I believe this one is called the ‘Tom Scott’
I’ll have you know I have 4 nice shirts. They’re all identical black shirts though.
Are you a cartoon character?
Reminds of a twitter exchange I saw a while back [it gets reposted a lot]
A woman complains that there’s a double standard that forces women to buy a lot of clothes and have many different looks.
A man responds that he doesn’t care if he sees a woman wearing the same thing every day.
Yes, they do it because other women care.
because other women care
… and it is somehow men’s fault anyway.
It’s not specifically men’s fault.
It’s partriarchy’s and - its pendant - misogyny’s fault. People that pass as men do benefit from them and thus tend to manifest them more but they’re baked in the whole society.
People that aren’t men can internalize thoses biases too. Women enforcing other women wearing a shit ton of different outfits are manifesting internalized misogyny.
I’d argue that there’s also a dash of classism sprinkled on top of it because it seems more of an issue in bourgeois (or at least bourgeois affiliated) settings. I wear safety clothes and PPEs in the shop so not much variety here and there’s no issue if I wear the same outfit I like with friends.
And even at that patriarchy hurts even the “regular-est” cis straight white men. All that shit about “being a real man”, promoting risky behaviours, shutting down all emotions, etc aren’t good for anyone…
I hope you had an at least ok day c:
I know ladies here are very rare… But. Maybe some gay bros can hear this too or anyone dating masc presenting person.
Buy them a nice shirt. They will treasure it forever. My wife bought me (girlfriend at the time, like first year of our relationship or so) sweatpants. I wore them today, 18 years later.
Things like that stay with us forever.
Now for those who are fashion blind like me, try to observe what they dress like, suggest something long the lines of “this could look good on you”. Apparently I pick good clothes, but in reality, it’s good because I complemented her in it. It doesn’t take much, but will mean a lot to your partner.
The problem I have is that my office has a dress code policy from the '80s, so I’m wearing nice shirts every day I go to work. Now, it’s become my “work attire” so my brain doesn’t want to put it on for dates, because who would want their date to arrive in work clothes?
So far, my solution has just been to girlmode my dates, but I do wonder what my future partner will think when they realize I don’t actually wear mesh tops and skirts all that frequently, and I have a small Men’s Warehouse in my closet.
I don’t think most people consider dates to be the same as dressing up for work. One can look “nice” without having to look like a white collar drone in a boring workplace.
For example, I have different suits and ties for the workplace (conservative, standard dark colors) versus for things like weddings (brighter, more expressive colors and patterns and fabrics).
But even short of that level of formality, there are fashion choices that can attract attention. If you’re in an environment where the dress code is to wear a collar and some buttons, there’s a difference between a plain polo (whether cotton or some kind of performance polyester athleisure) or a short sleeve buttoned shirt with some fun prints (whether we’re talking about Dan Flashes or a Hawaiian shirt or something more subtle), on top of the decision on whether to wear that shirt tight or loose or baggy.
Or, some people make conscious choices for their athletic wear, when they’re going to the gym or for a run or a bike ride, or playing sports like golf or basketball or tennis.
For people who are going on dates, the attire can convey a message, either intentional or not. And people might choose to send completely different messages in the workplace versus on dates versus just out with friends.
I for one would be stocked.
Fancy dude clothes look awesome on anyone that isn’t me \o
Correction 2 nice shirts. Everyone has shirts they have but don’t wear cause they don’t like them
Whoa, he has a solid wholesale connect on modest but durable garmets.
