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Does my husband count? If so, one :(
That’s not sad if you like him
It’s kinda crazy. I’m 41 now and 10 or 15 years ago i often read that people said that they have no friend. And i thought that’s more of a joke, like people knline joke about how they wanna kill themselves or whatever, because i had multiple friend groups, and would see a lot of them almost daily.
Suddenly, people moved away, were in relationships, had kids, died or you just realized that you are not friends anymore.
I talked to my girlfriend about our wedding and she asked me who i would invite. I had to think for a bit and said, i dunno, my sister… And that’s pretty much it, since i marry my best and kind of only friend. Then she thought about it and said: my parents, and… Fuck, i don’t have any friends either, except you.
I have 4 that I would consider close friends. Sometime having a small group of friends is good.
I’d say I have a good handful. I’m not good at getting close to people, so some toe the line for me between acquaintance and friend. For a numerical, I suppose if we count those toeing the line - maybe a dozen or so? Maybe 15?
I’ve been very lucky as an adult to find a lot of good people. 99% of them are from playing TTRPGs online.
Where does one go to start playing these games?
It’s a bit tricky nowadays to find a solid game. There’s plenty of LFG things on either Reddit or any of the discords for your desired TTRPG - usually numbers favor DnD5e, but there’s a fair few on Pathfinder 2e nowadays too.
However, the best luck I’ve had in more recent years has been on startplaying.games - where you can find a paid DM/GM. (Not a shill, just what I have personally experienced)
I could go into what I believe the benefits of a paid vs unpaid game are, but that’s a lot of extra for just this.
People I talk to every day: 2
People I feel able to confide in regularly: 3
People I occasionally invite over for a party: 15
Acquaintances I enjoy being around at social functions: maybe 50
None of the categories count my kids, other people’s kids, or family except for my wife
Also, I think my numbers are inflated because of how many bands I was in when I was younger. The community of that music scene was something I’m not sure I’ll ever see again. But I do play dnd every week, which helps too.
- My friend and my wife. I’m not a disagreeable person. I have a fair few friendly acquaintances, but I’m not willing to put in the energy for more actual friends
Not many
Depending on your definition.
Probably dozens.
People I talk to daily shooting the shit? Probably 10 or so.
You’re doing better than I am.
I know people. We get along. But friends? Nope.
I can confidently say 2. i can delusionally say 6.
I have 9; 5 are uni classmates I’m on a 2-semester project with, and the other 4 are:
-A retired public-sector official old enough to be my grandmother
-A semi-retired realtor also old enough to be my grandmother
-Another realtor who used to work for the first realtor but now is an exec at another company
-His notary-public and possibly-also-CIA longtime boyfriend
All of the latter 4 are older than my parents.
I’m 50. I only have time for acquaintances. Close friends take way too much time.
Looking to find some more on my new instance ;)
neat domain you got there!
Many comments mention “people i talk to every day”. Is that really a common thing? Literally daily? I have a couple good friends, but definitely none I talk to daily 😅
For me it is more about being friends for many years and always having a good time when we meet. At most I chat 2-3 times a week with some.
3 good ones and maybe 5 outside of that. I’m pretty bad at keeping up with them honestly. Sometimes I message them and they’re like yo its been 6 months where you been, yeah sorry I got obsessed with something and forgot the world exists.
