The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Big-Department-9505 on 2025-03-06 15:46:15.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year and i have gotten comfortable with his mom. last night, i decided to clean the kitchen for her as i had to wait for the pizza to cook in the oven that my boyfriend had put in but he had to go back upstairs to be on his game so i watched for it to be ready. once the pizza was finished i had washed and put away all of the dishes. after we ate he decided to help me clean the rest of the kitchen which was just wiping down the counters. it was about midnight when we finished and i stayed the night. this morning at 7:30am i got a call from my mom saying that my boyfriends mom had texted her that she wanted me to go home and to not clean. and i told my boyfriend about it and he said that last night before he came back downstairs she had asked him to tell me to go home, which he did not tell me about until this morning. his mom is very upset with me that i stayed and kept her up all night with my and my boyfriends cleaning. i feel terrible about it. in my mind i was just doing something nice i didn’t realize that she would be so upset but it is also my fault for being slightly noisy while doing the dishes.

Is it my fault or my boyfriend’s fault for not telling me she didn’t want me to clean and wanted me to go home? or is she just overreacting?

Overall i’m asking how I should apologize to her even if i’m not in the wrong. Please help me.