The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/jinglegumpy on 2025-03-06 16:59:31.

This is so ridiculous and I can’t even believe I’m here, but it’s been blown way out of proportion by my boyfriend and I need outside eyes.

I (26F) masturbate a lot. My boyfriend (29M) doesn’t. I generally have a higher drive than him so this isn’t surprising, nor is it the problem.

The problem, according to him, is that I exclusively refer to my self care sessions as “jorkin’ it.” It’s one of those things that started as a joke and just became part of my vocab. So I’ll say something like “I got a late start this morning because I was jorkin’ it,” and he reacts with visible disgust. He says I shouldn’t talk about it like that because it’s “gross and immature.”

I have clarified extensively with him that it’s NOT the jorkin’ that’s the issue, it’s specifically the words I choose to describe it. He says if I called it something “less childish” it wouldn’t bother him.

He thinks I’m being selfish and immature by continuing to say “jorkin’ it” knowing that it bothers him so much. I think he’s being insane and prude to police my vocabulary like this. It’s not just about the jorkin’ to me, it’s the principle of the matter.

Basically: I think he’s an AH for feeling entitled to decide which words I use. He thinks I’m an AH for refusing to make this small concession and making a mountain out of a mole hill. Who’s right?