• Zenith@lemm.ee
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      6 months ago

      But at least it’s a conversation you can work with “oh yeah it’s so nice we should go do X” or “yeah it’s crazy out there, we should stay in and watch a movie and snuggle” the point of small talk is to open avenues of conversation… I think people just don’t know how to have conversations anymore and chalk it up to “not liking small talk”. Observation and response is a perfectly normal way to start a conversation

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        6 months ago

        I think it’s more about your expectation from interactions with strangers. I will tolerate a ton of weather talk from my wife but if the guy taking my order at 5 Guys tries the same thing it’s not going to be as well received.

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        6 months ago

        we should go do X

        we should stay in and watch a movie and snuggle

        That’s not small talk, that’s planning what to do today. You can open the same conversation with “hey, what do you want to do today?”

      • Dragon Rider (drag)@lemmy.nz
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        6 months ago

        the point of small talk is to open avenues of conversation

        If you’re married to someone, all avenues of conversation should be open the minute you’ve both said hi. If you need to talk about the weather before you decide what to get for dinner, with your spouse, then your marriage is a failure.

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      6 months ago

      Lotta folks on both sides of this conversation who have never been in a long-term relationship.