Hey lemmy! I’ve been very sexual active but now that I moved I’m not too active. I’ve had over a 100 partners so far so I’m a bit experienced lol.
Hey lemmy! I’ve been very sexual active but now that I moved I’m not too active. I’ve had over a 100 partners so far so I’m a bit experienced lol.
is there something in common the guys that made you cum quick share? i hope it’s not just dick size lol
No lol it’s not big dick = quick cum. Some guys can move very well and stimulate spots very differently. Also they ask what I liked and changed based on that.
thank you <3 - so, focus on squats in the gym and hip mobility, got ya
And loosen up a bit. Dance!
i love dancing!
I really wish a lot more of both guys and gals knew this, that just communicating during sex, telling people directly what you like and what you don’t, where to touch, when, and how, instead of just grunting or whimpering the whole time, is really, really important.
So many people just… try to do what they see in a porno, or just… are too embarassed to speak, or just don’t listen.
Also, for guys: Almost all women literally need foreplay to actually, highly enjoy sex.
Start slow, tease her a bit at first, be a bit coy, don’t just go straight to jackhammering, she’s got a whole body of erogenous zones, maybe familiarize yourself with some of them first, ask her about them.
Also also: This does vary, size queens are real and do exist, but… most? many? women will actually experience signifigant pain from gigantocock.
Vaginas do expand when aroused, but if you’re literally punching her kidneys with an over 8 or 9 inch cock, generally speaking, thats actually quite painful, and most women do not like that as much as something a bit smaller.
I guess hell, priya, would you say you have an ideal partner length/girth?
Yes! Just talk lol.
Also guys please moan. Don’t be quiet. Even the grunts are good, let me hear it!
Tbh I like big dicks because sex a lot of positions are easier to do (like full nelson). Doggy + big dick is going to be painful but sometimes in a good way.
I really don’t have an ideal size. As long as it’s not below 4" I’m good.
That’s true that there are a number of positions that just don’t work as well if you aren’t packing a bit more than average, or I guess maybe exceptionally flexible.
Adding in that you like guys not being mute is also a good point!
Just for clarity, when you say big dick in doggy pose can approach your personal pain vs pleasure threshold, where would you draw the line at what ‘big dick’ size is, for doggy, and/or maybe other positions where its been a bit painful?
Also, given that… 100 dicks is a pretty large sample size for one person, what would you say is about the average size that you’ve uh… ahem, encountered?
Well what “big” dick is kinda depends.
If the girth is very high it’ll be painful no matter what. (I haven’t ran into this but I’ve heard).
Length really really depends on how rough it is. Doggy rough with 6" will be a bit bad painful. A sensual slow doggy with 8" isn’t likely to be as painful. Same kinda applies for any deep position. Being rough really adds the pain.
Average: Probably near 5.7"? Tbf I don’t sleep with anyone less than 4" so maybe that skewed it. The number is pulled out of my ass tho tbf ;)
I appeciate the more specific explanation of how 6 vs 8 feels when you take position and roughness and speed into account…
… but if you’re talking with your friends, casually, and they ask you ‘was it big?’, there’s your casual, quick response scenario, what roughly would your length be for that?
a rough minimum length that takes it out of average/common/normal territory?
You’ve already covered how there is so much more to sex than just cock size, but a whole, whole lot of guys really just want a straight answer to that kind of a question, just so they know where they stand.
Whole lot of male insecurity going on, like I know all the stats (more on that below), but perception and stats don’t always line up, and a lot of women also are not as forthcoming as you are, or, just like guys can be deluded by porn standards, so can a lot of women be deluded by porn standards.
Beyond that: I legit would not have expected you say rough doggy or another deep position with 6 can be painful, I would have imagined it would take a bit more than that.
Though, I have read that the average, aroused vagina is roughly 5 1/2 inches in depth, so I guess that makes sense, but there are few studies on that and they all have huge error margins.
Totally makes sense that taking it slow makes it much less painful, more enjoyable, even with larger lengths.
Also makes sense that girth is probably more of a factor than length, when it comes to pain, just more volume, more expansion, more potential for friction or even tearing per the same length.
Ok so, as to average length being about 5.7"… that is actually uh, bang on the money for all the comprehensive meta studies on this I’ve read.
Yeah, a lot of studies exist on that, and yep, 5 and 3/4 inches is basically the average over the whole globe.
So, … basically, you have uh, experienced what us stats nerds call a representative sample, not heavily biased or skewed in some way.
Also:
Well, I guess its pulled not less than 4 inches out of your ass.
Sorry, you walked right into that one, haha!
But uh no, you probably didn’t skew it that much with that rule, I think any fully erect dick under 3.5" is just actually considered a micropeen, and those are… basically as rare as somebody over 7 or 8 inches.
If it’s above 6" and not thin then yes, I’ll say it was big. Girth as well, beyond a certain radius? Circumference? I’ll describe it as thick.
The reason rough is painful is cus it’s hitting things with momentum too. Not only because of where it’s hitting. PS taking 6" rough is not a normal thing. Lot of girls can’t do that. (Neither can I for too long)
5.7: Well, the science backs me?😭😂