I checked my Pixelfed messages today and see this. I’ve literally no idea what the first half means, so I asked my daughter to translate the acronyms. No idea what “no disrespect” is conveying.
I never really thought of pixelfed as a place for spam or scammers. If the intent is genuine, then I’m even more perplexed by how they are choosing communicating. I’m not going to respond because it feels off, so yeah…
Perhaps I’m just showing my age?
Every generation creates words and slangs, which is totally fine, but when speaking or texting, use formal every day words.
Years ago in chat rooms people would ask AS, which meant age and sex, which I didn’t know.ASL?
Yea this one. L is for language??
I remember L being for location.
Yep. ☺️
Basically how every 90s chat room session started.
Yes.
You are showing your age? You never used slang in your life?
WSG means What is good. It is a modern day equivalent of “What is up” “What is going on” hell when I was a teenage I used to use what is good…
The “No disrespect” statement certainly means that the sender just wants to talk to the receiver and isn’t trying to start a fight or continue a fight.
Most people, regardless of language, use slang. Including myself. When it comes to acronym use though, I don’t often use text acronyms. I understand most early ones, but newer ones pop up now and again.
I’ve heard ‘what’s good’, but never a text acronym of wsg. After my daughter mentioned that, it made sense. (Although I proceeded to forget and you’re reminding me again of what it means. Haha.)
“No disrespect” is something I think I would normally understand given some context, but this message is out of the blue from a stranger I’ve never interacted with. I honestly thought that if this message wasn’t spam and I responded, they were going to be critical or rude about something and they were perhaps trying to soften the blow upfront. Ironically, that seems to be the opposite of what your suggesting. 🤷🏽
Language can be funny.
Ehhh I don’t think this is too farfetched. Not all young people talk like this but some sure do. The no disrespect is kinda odd though, but may just be referring to him asking you a question out of the blue.
But yeah I wouldn’t respond just on the basis of I hate people asking if they can ask me a question but not asking the question. Like well you already asked me one question and now I need to wait to hear the second one?
Yeah. It’s not like you only get one message with X characters. They could have just got to the point. 😁
Seems more like the one of the wrong number sms spams. Those can actually be pretty fun to respond to for awhile. 🙃
Ohh. That would be a great thread to start here.
Here’s my first entry. 🤣
No disrespect but may I ask you some questions
What pisses me off about this is that if they believe that’s rude, they’re already being rude nt asking one. Like you literally just asked me a question. Just assssskkkkkkk ughhh. People can be exhausting.
“Do you have time to answer some questions?” is a very considerate thing to ask someone who may be busy. 🤨
If someone has a question, I can answer it immediately if they just ask me. If they say hi, ask me how I’m doing, or ask if they can ask me something, then it is going to take me longer to get them the information they need. Besides, there’s never a setting where the answer to “can I ask you a question” is no, because they’ve given me no information about what type of question they want to ask. So to properly even answer that question I’d need to ask them more questions! So just ask the damn question. If I’m busy and can’t answer I’ll just say “I’m busy right now and will answer when I can” or direct them to someone else who I think can answer sooner.
Besides, I’ve never been asked “do you have time to be asked some questions” which is not what I said I have a problem with. It’s specifically “can I ask you a question?”
why not ask the question immediately, I don’t get this
That’d be a little rude, no? Gotta see if the person has time to talk first.
Hey, I have some thoughts about your comment. Do you have time to read them? If so I’d like to formulate those thoughts as a reply to your comment.
Cheers
Yeah, just hit me up when you have time. It might take me a day to get back to you, though.
Sure I’ll, write when I got time.
Those are pretty amusing links. 😁
This is one of those “varies by culture” things, I think. Asking to ask doesn’t create an obligation, asking the first time does. If it’s from a superior to a subordinate, that’s fine. Same if it’s from a student to teacher or any other relationship where “I am here to help you” is implicit. But between equals it’s different, mostly because it implies that they’re not equal, that the asker is in a position to create tasks for the other person.
I appreciate the response and perspective. For me, the obligation begins the instant I am made aware someone wants something, irrespective of if they actually ask it. Even if I end up turning it down, I still have to be polite and get the question first, explain why, and potentially who might be able to help if I have any leads. If I were to side step all of that and say “no, do not ask me a question” upon being asked to ask, that would be seen as very rude, and I would feel rude for doing it too.
I’m curious about your response.
Since text messages can be answered any time, at any speed, I can’t imagine why it would be rude to just ask or how time availability would be an issue. Do you find yourself similarly texting and asking if people can text (immediately)?
Just feels like phishing… with the weirdest phishing message I’ve ever read as bait.
Asking someone if they have time to talk, no response is the same as a “no”.
Asking someone “Hey I wanna go to this concert on Friday, should I buy two tix and we’ll go together?” means you need an immediate response or you’re either going to miss the concert or piss off your friend.
The purpose of being polite is to reduce social frictions.
Here’s what would piss me of the most:
“Hey, I got a question. Do you have time to talk?”
Me not knowing what this is about or how long it would take to answer this mysterious question of yours: “not right now, gonna text you in the evening”
Me (later): “So what was your question?”
“I wanted to go to that concert on Friday. But now all of the tickets are gone and I’m going alone, lmao”
I HAD enough time to answer a simple yes/no question. I hate it when people ask if I have time to text. At least give me a fucking hint like “hey I got a short question: its about the concert on Friday”. Asking if one has time to text causes the most social friction IMO but the least visible friction (to you).
If you only reach out to someone with straightforward requests, it seems like they’re being used. I value the hypothetical you as an individual, rather than a resource that provides me with something.
I’ve grown to realize that most other people don’t seem to feel the same way and I try to accommodate, but every time I start a conversation with a demand, it feels rude to me.
Just curious: Would you consider it rude if someone else sends you a text with a straightforward request? Or do you just feel like it could be perceived as rude when you do it?
If the only messages I ever receive from that person are requests and demands, I don’t know if I would call it rude from them, but I certainly wouldn’t feel valued as a person.
In that situation, when you asked her later, your friend should’ve said “Oh don’t worry about it, I was able to resolve it without you, but thanks for checking in,” and then changed the subject.
I’d hate to be treated that way. Ofc it’s fine if this is the social norm for you and people around you.
(Me after someone tells me ‘oh don’t worry about it’)
So if they don’t respond to your “do you have time to talk” initial message, then you just don’t invite them to the concert at all and never tell them about it?
All to avoid just asking them up-front whether they want to go or not?
That’s wild, I genuinely don’t understand how this is better in any way.
Imo if the question is urgent, either call them or add something to the text like “tickets are going quick and I’m going to buy them ASAP, so if I don’t hear back by <insert time>, I’ll assume you’re out”
So if they don’t respond to your “do you have time to talk” initial message, then you just don’t invite them to the concert at all and never tell them about it?
Yep, that’s right.
All to avoid just asking them up-front whether they want to go or not?
This is where I have to correct you. Not asking them straight out, and not mentioning it later if they don’t respond, are both is service of avoiding putting pressure on them.
The jnteresting thing about politeness is how it varies between cultures and persons. Things really can very widely.
I personally can’t imagine emailing someone only to ask “may I ask you a question” rather than asking the question itself, but I suppose that might be more polite with some folks?
In the case of this original message, I literally have no idea what half of it meant. English isn’t my first language, but I think I’ve got it pretty down. This was a whole new (generational?) level. 😅
This is engagement bait. It’s spam.
Exactly my thought. Never heard the term “engagement bait”, but it smells right. 🙂
