I browse “All” most of the time and the Femcel Memes show up pretty regularly. It’s not like this gif though. It’s more like watching a super interesting science experiment.
“Ah, yes. I see. I see. How interesting!”
My scientific notes so far:
- They crave cuddles. It’s almost like a cuddle-based economy.
They crave cuddles.
Who among us cannot say the same?
I just took an NFPA 70E electrical safety course, and the instructor was talking about how electricians love to cuddle.
I thought it was weird for a sec, then I remembered the last time I opened an electrical panel with someone else nearby. Then I remembered every other time I opened an electrical panel with other people nearby. Then I remembered all the times that I was all the other people nearby.
Then he showed us a video of an arc flash with 3 people inside the panel, and then there was nobody nearby.
Arc flashes are nature’s way of saying cuddle time is over.
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Straight guys can’t say it. Not because they don’t crave them, they just can’t say that they do without social sanction. Everyone else apparently gets a pass though.
I’ll say it; I crave cuddles.
Cuddles while watching TV is one of the only things that’ll pull me away from my computer.
Brave. Now say it on a de-anonymized platform and enjoy being a social pariah for the rest of your life.
Pffft. Grow the fuck up, find your fucking balls and fucking own it.
It only plays that way if you let it.
Another note is that they seem to all be autistic, with many of them exhibiting symptoms of severe depression. Most are also trans lesbians. Many seem to be cat/fox/puppygirls.
Depressed autistic transbians commiserating about loneliness
“Aw cute puppygirls!” head pats
Depessed autistic cis guys commiserating about loneliness
“Ew gross incels, yuck!” social stigma
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Lots of lonely guys aren’t lashing out and demeaning others either, but people don’t notice them because they’re not lashing out and demeaning others. They still get labeled as incels though, and if they find that hurtful then people will absolutely shred them for it anyway.
Also, they’ll be shamed for bed rotting, and shamed for watching yuri. No matter what they do, they’ll be shamed for it. So it’s honestly not surprising when a number of them end up lashing out.
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Yes, people do call even the ones who aren’t being assholes “incels.” It’s a derogatory term that gets used against anyone who doesn’t get laid. Like calling someone a “virgin.” It’s shitty, and it promotes toxic masculinity. It also objectifies women by implying that men need to “get p***y” in order to be worthy of basic respect.
And I’m tired of hearing this excuse that “it doesn’t refer to literal involuntary celibates, it refers to redpilled misogynistic jerks.” But that simply isn’t true, because people definitely apply it to literal “involuntary celibates” and use it as an insult like calling someone a “virgin.” It’s childish and immature. Also, there are lots of misogynistic jerks who get laid. Focusing all your ire on “incels” misses the point entirely, lets those people off the hook, and perpetuates the issue by communicating the subtext that “you can be a misogynistic jerk as long as you get laid, and then we’ll still respect you.” If you can’t see how that’s toxic and detrimental to society, then I can’t help you.
And do you think that women are not judged if they behave in the femcel manner?
They’re more likely to be fetishized, which is bad in a different way. But it certainly hasn’t risen to the level of a cultural pastime like shaming incels has.
It seems like you’re applying a double standard, there.
I’m not the one applying a double-standard. I’m pointing out the double-standard.
I never said “femcels should be shamed, and incels shouldn’t be.”
I said “femcels don’t get shamed the same way incels do.”
If the former is how you interpret the latter, that’s on you. If I need to explicitly state what I meant, it’s closer to this:
“Maybe nobody should be shamed for being lonely and having poor social skills, regardless of gender.”
If the issue is misogyny, target the misogyny. Not the inability to get sex, because that is going to do nothing to address the misogyny.
All well said and more articulate than I could pull off, bravo.
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Hmm yes they often are even when they are just complaining that they disdain the situation. I don’t know about women though I don’t know that many that are bed rotting
If they can look up Yaoi, bed rot, or even have the energy to complain about men, they are underemployed. I can’t even think about sex without realizing I could probably pull it off, but my job would get in the way of it, as with anything. The workplace is our god, everything, even family is secondary, because you can’t have family without work.
The fact they’re mostly trans take the appeal from me.
I mean, you don’t have to be attracted to anything you’re not attracted to. No one is saying “you have to like puppygirls!”
The point isn’t to fetishize femcels. The point is that double-standards are a problem that maybe understandably lead to people feeling left behind by society.
Maybe “incels” have a legitimate reason for feeling discontent after all, and it’s not “because women tell them no” like people claim. More like “because people ridicule them for being alone.”
just wait till you see the cuddle parties in vrchat with full body tracking hehe
(I’m the one with piece signs)
though, unfortunately not with the folks from femcel memes… :(
^cough cough [email protected] cough cough^
Strange as fuck heh. Also, it’s a rich person solution as well.
I think I just walked in here from searching about VR stuff, but you can 3d print a PCVR headset and assemble with off the shelf components for under $150 USD (there’s an article on hackaday), or buy used headsets for $200-300. It’s not unobtainable to most, I think.
That would literally fuck up my life rn actually. Believe it or not.
I like femcelmemes and all the posters there. It’s like tumblr, but with fewer chips on shoulders
Oh don’t get me wrong, they’re a fantastic, mutually supportive community. I just didn’t realize what I was walking into at first. It was like entering a club I had no business entering.
I was today years old when I realized everyone else in that picture is a woman XD
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The first time I commented there, I tried to be courteous in the way I usually was on tumblr. People responded kindly, but read a bit confused. I quickly realized that the club was open to all. (Within reason)
Which is to say, similar experience
I don’t want to upvote and intrude on their shit but they’re funny
same! I love femcel memes. The lesbian ones are pretty funny too but it’s the same thing. It’s not my space to yap in, but I’m going to save that meme and share it with my friends.
As long as it’s ironic. Actual female incels are every bit as bad as their male counterparts.
pretty sure female incels have never shot up a school or massage parlor, but I personally don’t need to put people on some kind of badness hierarchy
Brenda Ann Spencer? There’s an old song about her called “I Don’t Like Mondays”.
i dont think that’s a femcel bro
Wrraf arf raf arf!!! :3
How do you haplessly wander into it? I can’t even deliberately visit with the url, it just throws an error thru lemmy.world
Incel wanted to know how much women don’t want to fuck people like him.
I love the femcel memes people. What scares me is if Violet08 finds them, I think together they would be too powerful.
Yeah, but violet gets laid tho
I don’t know if people realize that she is a freaking minor.
I’m basically okay with that? The average age where people first have sex has been rising, but it’s still less than 18.
I stumbled upon a conversation about violence against women on Twitter once. The lady spearheading it was of strong opinions against men. Yes, violence against women is abhorrent, and those responsible should be held accountable. Women have the right to be safe.
But … she seemed to be blaming every man on Earth, going so far as to call for their eradication.
I happened to make the innocent (yes, truly, I’d never heard or used the statement before), that ‘not all men’ are like the scumbags who commit violence against women.
Well … !
“FUCK OFF WITH YOUR NOT ALL MEN BULLSHIT, YOU MYSOGYNIST TROLL CUNT!” And further robust exclamations and accusations of that nature ensued.
Educated as to the limitations of my knowledge in this area, I decided to withdraw from the conversation.
don’t understand how that relates to femcel memes though
Civil discourse dies on twitter. The algo demands “engagement”.
Also, the absolute irony of using Elon Musk’s platform to push a progressive or faux-progressive view point.
Joined Lemmy and was randomly adding communities. Started getting random memes coming through and that’s when I found out what a “bussy” was.
It’s a nickname for a bus. As in a children’s school bussy
It’s a joke don’t kill me
It’s been a few years since I delved into the Reddit side, but the femcel communities here are much nicer places to be than the subreddits. There’s some feeling of independence and empowerment here, whereas the subreddits were always overwhelmed by insufferable idiots. They were truly the female version of terminally online incels.
I think it’s worse in leemy. I honestly feel like killing myself half the time I am here and it’d only a little better then reddit.
Maybe it’s time to disengage from Lemmy if it’s impacting your mental health so much. Take care, comrade.
How do you even become a femcel? Men literally swarm anything roughly women like
Valuing personal safety and not having the energy to filter through that swarm for safe/trustworthy men is my guess.
You don’t know any woman that you definitely wouldn’t date?
Being MAGA disqualifies you. Even then, I might think if her only problem is a lack of men accepting her, maybe her finding someone would make her stop going MAGA? At least another woman if nothing else.
But I don’t trust humans enough to be vulnerable near them atm, so past tense. They only understand paycuts and lawsuits, that’s how I establish facts, through legal documents and courts.
