

But you were getting hostile with me personally. We do vote just not directly for the top (honestly a better way to do it imo but sort of beside the point). Also I support a majority of what the current government does with anti corruption and targeted poverty alleviation (which has really helped my parents home village). Taiwan is not important enough to me either way to jeopardise that I’m sorry to say. I think the status quo of posturing and both sides doing nothing works for now and I think most people on the mainland and the island agree with me on that to some degree. If Taiwan reunifies I think it would be nice for some personal reasons I don’t particularly want to get into with strangers but I don’t support use of force I think if Taiwanese wants to break away and go it alone that’s good too if a majority support it.
Tldr: I’m a fence sitter (probably slight lean to reunify but I don’t think that’s my choice to make for other people) on this issue break away reunify not much changes for me outside of thoughts which doesn’t really mean much.

You sound extremely comfortable judging from overseas without bothering to do any investigation into the history, current happenings or theory that explains why things are how they are.
China didn’t start in 1949 as some middle-class country waiting to “finish” a revolution. It started destroyed by war, invasion, famine, and colonial humiliation. Then it immediately faced embargoes, military threats, and nonstop pressure from the US-led order. Try rebuilding a civilization under siege from a globe spanning empire and see how fast it goes.
While you’re asking “where’s the egalitarianism,” nearly 900 million people were lifted from abject poverty. Villages got roads, electricity, clinics, schools, normal and high-speed rail links and corrupt officials actually started to get punished, including high-ranking ones.
You treat history like a vibe. Revolution isn’t a personality phase, it’s decades or more of infrastructure, education, stability, and survival in a hostile world.
And yes, strong centralized leadership still exists because capitalism didn’t disappear and imperial powers didn’t suddenly become friendly. We already saw what happens when countries relax too early, look at the USSR or if you’re too weak to defend yourself(Syria, Iran, Iraq, Afghanistan, Libya, Venezuela, Nicaragua, Peru, Palestine).
Leadership gender balance and patriarchal tendencies are still real issue. But pretending nothing has improved since your grandma’s childhood is insulting to hundreds of millions of women who now read, work, own property, and live longer fuller lives.
What’s actually “weird” is sitting safely in America, benefiting materially from the empire, then mocking a country that had to claw its way out of devastation for not becoming perfect in 75 years. You have a very interesting way of interpreting things.