foxglove (she/her)

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Cake day: May 14th, 2025

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  • do you have a gofundme or way people can send you funds, have you considered posting on mutual aid communities?

    It’s not weak or abnormal to feel overwhelmed in these conditions, give yourself grace and stay pragmatic if you can - when overwhelmed, I sometimes just try to think of what next pragmatic step I can take. Often times the despair leaks in when I feel there is nothing I can do, and staying focused on a task that takes me in the right direction often helps me cope by distracting me from the despair (and sometimes restoring a sense of agency).




  • Honestly, desire is a justification on its own. If you have limited resources, then it’s really about whether you can afford to prioritize those desires or not. For those with enough money, desire is enough of a reason to justify a purchase.

    Without enough money, the question is whether the desire outweighs other more practical ways that money could be spent. When I was depressed sometimes I would make irrational spending choices because it helped me feel good and even helped me pretend I was not as poor as I actually was, by spending the money irrationally I could create the illusion of having more money than I had. This was a dangerous game, though.


  • That all makes sense, desiring looking at something beautiful or attractive.

    Re envy: that’s interesting, so you would like to be able to be like women in that you would like to be able to be beautiful, delicate, desirable and so on?

    I think some men can be considered beautiful and desirable - I’m sure women would describe men like Pedro Pascal as being beautiful and desirable 😅 But I hear what you mean that in general women are seen as desired and men as the one desiring, in a sense. I think that’s largely social, though I do think estrogen does create traits that we might see as beautiful, such as soft skin, for example.

    I guess I wonder if you have any examples of beautiful, delicate, or desirable men, and whether you would prefer to be that, or if you could press a button if you would just choose to have been born a woman instead?