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Are you from a culture where your quoted parts are highly stigmatized or marginalized (e.g. most parts of the US)? Because I don’t hold any against being in a state of psychosis nor six. I hope you didn’t assume that I did, or that other cultures are the same as yours. Ethnocentrism is a kind of entitlement, I think. 🤷‍♂️

On children, I have difficulty believing that you think a person’s children are “theirs” no matter what. That they have no say in it, even over the course of decades. I dunno that sounds a bit entitled to me. Also reductive but hey who isn’t.

I consider people, all people, as having the potential to be equals and by default as equals. That means meeting them halfway, respecting their ultimate autonomy and decisions for themselves and positions on anything that relates to them. Does this contribute to unbridled hate once in a while? It seems like it. Not sure the alternative is better though. Nobody’s ever really made that argument to me in earnest.

Apparent absolute powerlessness in the face of something like poisoning / brainwashing is one of the most aggravating things I can imagine. Probably an understatement.

It is very possible your child will grow up and be unfathomably remorseful (and possibly angry at his birth mom for the brainwashing and manipulation). There will be no way he can ever, in his own ledger, make up for this cruelty to you.

So treat him as that future person. Treat him with kindness, respectfulness, and quasi-infinite tolerance knowing full well this is just a temporary psychosis, jarring and shitty as it is.

If he doesn’t later question it and regret it, then with all due respect he is not your child as he does not have your actual presence in his life any capacity–not even that of a clinic sperm donor. You’d be making it your problem, forever flailing at windmills.

Stay strong.

Actual tips and ideas/suggestions:
Do stuff with your son that’s really laid back and fun and popular. Doing so shows him that you’re cool and nonchalant and helps him to come away from the hijacked neurons and states of confusion and uncertainty. Be the cool unflappable parent that’s in the know for what’s cool and fun and awesome for kids. If you’re having trouble even getting to that rapport point, idk what to say because it hinges on the specifics of your interactions or him/you of which I’m ignorant.

Bro really went straight from x to z

Uhhhh

“seeing other women” means “not exclusive”

but “not exclusive” does not always mean “seeing other women”

He could be, just as one example of many, very unsuccessful at trying to see other women despite having an existing “nonexclusivity” agreement with her.

A new kind of serial killer 😂

From Greek chrȳsós

I’m a mostly single father of two kids, boys, 11 and 14. From what I read here, what happened is not your fault, and you are not a bad person by any measure. Nobody is perfect, and in fact there is no one “correct” way to have handled your situation (though there are obviously infinitely many bad ways to have done so, a category which your response does not fall under).

Developmentally, age 4 is borderline for toddler and young child. Some will still be toddlers and others will have entered well into the “pre-developmental phase.” This means there will be a lot of things that they can handle, such as “no” and other boundaries; toddlers begin to test boundaries as early as age 2 (I’m not saying anything your child did was necessarily that, nor am I concerned with whatever your response might be).

As for destroying the house, this is not okay. If any children want to play in water, quite common, they don’t have to do it during every shower or bath day. Buy them a little (big) plastic basin to splash around in, have them go to a pool or water park, get an (economic) water sensory table… There are many options that are available for children to still get to do what they want–play with water–without major risky downsides like destroying your home.

In my opinion, the only potentially really difficult thing here is to talk to their mom. She’s an adult, and she needs to start acting like one instead of just everything “yes” without restrictions or prudence. Children need their parents for guidance and socialization as well as just being “providers.” Adults know better–not always but usually. If your children wanted their diet to consist 100% of candy, I presume both of you wouldn’t just go for it.

If it helps, you can write down and practice what you want to say to your family (so that you can follow the ‘script’ and not get overtaken by rage). You’re evidently eloquent enough to be able to do so. Aside from keeping it short and focused, it can help a lot to start by writing where you’re coming from and how things have felt for you. There’s a good chance they don’t know, and they should–heck, we find out new things about ourselves when we take this time to do so, to consider and refine our understandings of ourself.

Best wishes to you, and I’m very sorry for the extreme pain. That is definitely not something to be ignored or made light of by anyone who cares about you.

As a regular ass reader, I agree. The best news is hardly distinct from avowed and evidence based journalism and research. In short, good faith and competence.

Rare proud BC moment

Ok, if this is anything more than lip-service appeasement, get him the fuck out. We don’t need the Liberals to be socially conservative patsies.

With transparency and plans for transitioning out of violence after success/phases

Good. Nobody partying and “living it up” in a 5-star Dubai hotel deserves any sympathy. Happily ignorant while complicit in stoking war? Good luck

They’ve completely infiltrated the military. Or maybe the sick ass military welcomed them and was looking for them. Fucked either way.

Dang, how long have the Balkans been the balkans?

Acceptable and unproblematic levels of irony such that it’s not really ironic at all without some major oversimplifications and assumptions. Like when workers go on strike, "oh how ironic that they’re working for them in the first place!”

“American Warlord” would be a sick movie title for an expose on these far right thugs.

I wonder if Westeros would have ruled against the name “Milk of the poppy.” No? The UK officially has worse takes on law than The Seven Fucking Kingdoms.

Capitalism lol

As much as I want ICE abolished (and would not mind worse), from reading the article and looking at the references, the logic in the claim is a bit dubious.

1A) 0 ICE has ever been killed “in the line of duty” on the American streets.

1B) The article arrives at a death rate of 1 in 95k / yr based on slightly broader (but still valid) conditions.

2. In 2024 there were 336 school shooting incidents and 276 victims wounded or killed; in 2025 there were 233 and 148 respectively (k12ssdb; I assumed all victims are students btw).

3. There were about 50 million K-12 students enrolled in public schools in 2024

4. Elementary school shooting incidents are just over 20% (incidents no victims, and not for 2024 but the entire k12ssdb reporting period)

5A) Taking the larger and more tragic number of dead+wounded from (2) divided by 50 million we get about 1 in 181k.

5B) For every three shooting victims, roughly one dies. So I would triple that to 1 in 540k or so. This is a ballpark for the elementary school death rate (what the article refers to).

6. For the article headline claim to be ordinarily true, [1B] should be greater than [5B]. It is not as 95k isnt greater than 540k or even 181k. Still, I find this unacceptably close to the ICE death rate by orders of magnitude but it’s not the most honest comparison.

7. In an alternative interpretation, the article could be using the value in [1A] for the basis of the claim instead of [1B], which would be trivial as the nonzero number of elementary school shooting deaths would always be greater than 0. But it’s not worded that way. Risk is by definition future-facing.

8. The population of ICE agents is “only” about 20k (still too many) as of very recently, which is not nearly high enough to beat the “rounding errors” or granularity of a 1 in 100k/yr death rate.

In closing remarks, fuck ICE. ACAB.

Love it. Imagine if NA cities or maybe entire provinces/states had half the cajones.