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toomanypancakes@crazypeople.online to 196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish · 1 month ago

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toomanypancakes@crazypeople.online to 196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish · 1 month ago
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      There is nothing wrong in wanting sexual exclusivity, in the same way there is nothing wrong in wanting more than one partner.
      Seeing either as “oppression” is limited mindset.

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          “I linked you a paper please agree”

          Lmao. You scream about liberation yet you’re the one wanting to control other people’s relationships.

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              Ayyo. Get my name outcha damn mouth.

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                  I’m not clicking on your weirdass links.

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          Law that is used to litigate the divorce industry.

          That’s a broken link, but am I correct in assuming that you are claiming the high rate of divorce in the US compared to countries that practice polygamy is due to some kind of expectation of monogamy and not due to something like the legality of no fault divorce?

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          As a polyero, would you start a relationship with someone that wants a monogamous relationship?

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      Are you claiming that in countries that have legal polygamy there is no sexual oppression?

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          Also, I’m not the one down voting your responses. I’m not trying to be overly critical, I think you have a unique perspective and I’m just trying to comprehend fully what you are trying to say.

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              I think that’s a bit patronizing, total sexual inclusivity is not a very large focus of anarchist literature as a whole.

              In fact, Murray Bookchin is one of my favorite political writers.

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          I don’t think anyone was trying to claim shaming culture wasn’t still around. I’m not sure what all entails to your use of the term monogamous domineers.

          Is the wife domineering over the husband by divorcing him? Wouldn’t that just allow him to be sexually liberated to sleep with whom he wants?

          What is the alternative in this scenario? For the man to continue being sexually liberal and force his wife to either adopt his views or be in a relationship structure she does not consent too?

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